I was recently promoted to my first-ever management position at work, and I’m about to start fabricating and selling some of my design products on the side. To be the best I can be in both these new endeavors, I went to the library and took out some self-helpish books.
I started with The Art of Selling Yourself. To be honest, this book wasn’t too helpful for me. Most of the content was common sense. But there was one exercise the book suggesting doing that I’m going to try out: listing out my strengths to better understand my qualities and build my self-confidence. I’m going to go ahead and list out my weaknesses as well, to force myself to introspect more deeply. Here it goes!
- Above all else, I am passionate and hungry. I have an insatiable desire to learn and create.
- I get shit done. If I have an idea, I make it happen, always — at work, in my side projects, and in my personal life.
- I am a perfectionist and am never satisfied with the status quo. I will not put my name on something unless I truly believe in it and consider it great. Good is not enough for me.
- I am able to read people very quickly and consider myself a good judge of character. However, I do not consider myself judgmental. I am empathetic, understanding, and forgiving, and always look for the best in people.
- I am open, down-to-earth, and genuine. I always try to make people feel comfortable and included.
- I am sharp and I learn very quickly.
- I enjoy challenges.
- I am optimistic.
- I fight for my point of view and always stand up for what I believe in.
- I am creative and have a discerning eye, yet I am also very good with numbers.
- I am self-aware and introspective.
- I am independent.
- For someone so Type A, I consider myself very spontaneous and adventurous. I am up for pretty much anything and love trying new things!
- In an effort to make other people feel comfortable, I think I can be too self-deprecating at times. For example, if I notice someone looking uncomfortable at a party, I might say something like, “I hate house parties too–I’m so awkward!!” Or if I see someone new struggling at work, I might say something like, “When I started, I had no idea what I was doing either. Ask me anything!” While I am being honest in these instances, sometimes I feel that by being too self-deprecating, I downplay my strengths and accomplishments. I also feel that by being too self-deprecating, I effectively give others permission to tease me. When I’m teased, it’s almost always playful, but sometimes I wish I would be taken more seriously.
- I am extremely fast-paced and can get impatient and frustrated with people who are not on the same speed level as me or who are not “with it.” I expect as much from others as I expect from myself, which is a lot.
- I have a great deal of social anxiety in certain situations (networking events, big rooms filled with people I don’t know, house parties, etc.) and sometimes my social anxiety can come across as awkwardness and/or weirdness.
- I can be very irritable.
- I am incredibly hard on myself with how I look.
- I am a workaholic, which can sometimes strain my relationships. When I spend time with people, even if I am enjoying myself, I sometimes feel like I’m wasting time I could be using more productively.
- I am not the most eloquent speaker. I can express my thoughts much more logically and cogently through writing.
- Because I am so passionate, I at times base major decisions on emotion and gut instinct rather than on logic. I’m not sure if this is a weakness or just a personality trait.
- I am never satisfied. While this could be considered a strength, because it is a motivating force, I sometimes think life would be simpler and easier if I were more content.
That’s all for now! I’ll add to the list if I think of more.